Becoming a Body Confident Babe!

Loving your body can be one of THE hardest journeys! Overcoming childhood insecurities, the ever-changing standards of beauty, and the various stages women's bodies go thru based on hormones, babies, or stress can be extremely difficult but it's not impossible! If you want to be confident in the skin you are in and remain kind to your body, that's one of the best goals to have. So, below I have a few tips to turn this goal into a reality that have really helped me out and some of these lessons I have to relearn and remind myself when it gets hard.

Tip #1 : Stop comparing yourself.

Do not under any circumstance wish yourself to look like someone else! You will always be disappointed. You are who you are, and you don't need to change to be like anyone else. You will waste so much time ignoring the wonderful parts of your self by wishing away the parts that you may not like or another girl has.

PRO TIP: If you find yourself envying another person on social media, unfollow them! Don't check their page if it means you will just be harsh or overly critical of yourself later or if you'll feel bad that you don't look like them. There's inspiration and then there's envious comparison. Be careful babes!

Tip #2: Do not find validation in social media or other people

Do not let the only kind word you think about your body come solely from other people. Don't look at other people to complimenting you as validation that you look good. Know when you look good and give your own self a pat on the back! It's not all about likes on Instagram, they don't measure your worth.

PRO TIP: When you are feeling yourself and feeling like a queen, remember that day for the days may not feel as confident. Also, no one has the power to make you love your body as much as you do. You hold the cards when it comes to how you feel about yourself.

Tip #3: Wear clothes that accentuate the features you DO feel good about!

Not every trend is going to flatter you figure but that doesn't mean your figure is bad, it just means the outfit is! Wearing what you feel comfortable and what is flattering goes miles because you see your body can be beautiful.

Pro tip: Find the right clothes for your height AND your shape.There's no one body type and we all have to find what works for each us! Don't splurge on trends but on the right fitting clothes that you know you will wear more than once and wear with multiple outfits, and each time will know you look goooooooooood.

Tip #4: Your body is a sensitive vessel so take care of it.

Drink your water, take your vitamins, eat right (for the most part), and exercise. When your weight fluctuates like mine sometimes knowing I'm doing all I can to feel good on the inside that helps me know I'll be okay. Be kind to yourself on those times of the month when you may get bloated or acne, it's temporary and its normal. Lastly for those on a weight loss or in some cases, weight gain journey, you are more than a number on a scale and you are working towards where you want to be and each stage you are beautiful. Love yourself thru the changes.

Tip #5: Speak kindly of others and yourself.

You'll never be comfortable with your own imperfections if you are constantly pointing out other peoples. Whether it's a celebrity, someone famous on social media, or a person you know it's not okay to bash or body shame someone, public or private especially if you know you would be hurt if someone made those comments about you. So get rid of the negative speech! On the flip side, we have a tendency to say even worse things about our own body that we would never say about anyone else! I've thought I looked disgusting and repulsive, in need to lose 50lbs, gelatinous, lumpy, and fat. I could go on on the words I've used to describe myself and it's things all stuff I couldn't bare saying aloud to another human but I steady remained speaking negatively to myself.

PRO tip: When you catch yourself bashing yourself, take a deep breath and go to the nearest mirror and stop. Look yourself in the eye and see you are a person. We tend to play things over and over in our mind but I found look myself in the eyes, not at my body, I am a person. I am a wife, sister, and a friend and I'm not this repulsive creature. I'm beautiful just in my own way. So let there be more days you tell yourself that you are beautiful than days you attack the things that make your body, yours.

You and your body are in this life together, love each other and be kind to one another every day! I hope sharing these quick reminders with ya'll helps. I can't lie and say it's not a struggle to remain positive and embrace your curves. I can't stay everyday you are going to wake up and feel like a supermodel. I can say that it's worth working towards, it's worth being kind to yourself, and it's worth it to love your body because only good can come from it! xoxo Morgs